Once upon a time when my husband and I were first together, not too long into our relationship, we had a hum-dinger of a fight. It was bad. I don’t mean violence bad, but the neighbors probably heard most of the gory details. Anyway, after that fight we sat down and began discussing the “rules” of what was allowed to happen in our future fights (because, let’s face it, unless you’re some sort of alien they are bound to happen!)
Those rules combined with some of the basic lessons of good communication have kept us together these past 16 years. This blog by Sara Altschule nails a LOT of those good communication tips, so I wanted to share it because the topic of keeping a loving relationship strong is forefront in my mind as I write this story for my first published work.
“Communication is key.” This statement has been said to pretty much everyone at least once in their life. So if communication is key, where do we find this key? Sometimes it feels like we’ve lost that key. Or it’s hidden in one of those hide-a-key rocks and there’s a thousand rocks outside. Ugh.
All of us who have relationships have struggled with communication. It comes in friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and work relationships, to name the main ones. But each of these relationships are in our lives so we can learn how to be better communicators, and thus not only express ourselves effectively but learn how to meet others’ needs and get our needs met as well.
Thankfully with these helpful tips, we can find that key, make a million copies of the communication key, and never lose sight of it. We can unlock the door to healthy communication and are able to witness how lovely it is.